Letter: Charlotte McConnell, Sterling

Editor: I was reading your article about the school board’s Pride proclamation vote. The description of “a typically routine vote on a ceremonial proclamation passed by only one vote Tuesday night” is false.

This vote was only “typical” in 2020. Every other year it did not pass, or offensive comments were written on the document, or it wasn’t even allowed to be brought forward. 

Do not frame Loudoun County as an LGBTQIA+ affirming place to live or visit. It is not. So many of us have stories about being verbally harassed in public or worse.

I spent two years in the School Board room listening to stories of brave students asking to be included instead of denying their pronouns or who they love. 

Then I spent two years on the Equity Committee saying we need to do a better job educating the community at large why we need equity for all students. And that we need to educate everyone about LGBTQIA+ people. There are so many lies being thrown around because we are fighting for the Equality Act nationally.

Kids are afraid to come out and some who do, get kicked out of their homes. That is child abuse. 

I do not need to tell you about the transphobia taking place in this country because Loudoun Now enables it by reporting in a very biased manner. Sometimes we need to see positive stories of Pride instead of all the controversy and hate.

We need all allies to stand up and show their pride.

We have all failed to educate our community in Loudoun County about the validity and equality of LGBTQIA+ people. The rhetoric around trans students is hurtful, harmful, and offensive.

The fear of transphobic people is unjustified and unacceptable. It is not up to you to judge me with your religion and misconceptions. 

I need you to show your pride this month. it can no longer be acceptable to question the dignity of trans lives. We need radical acceptance. We need to trust people to know themselves better than how we view them. We must move beyond the gender binary and wondering what’s in someone’s pants. The generation I am raising will not tolerate gender norms. 

But I fear whom we might lose between now and then.

If you are LGBTQIA+ or an ally, I love you. Everyone else needs to get on board because my existence is not up for debate.

Pride is not just a capitalist opportunity. It is a time to show your love and support for queer people. Whatever Pride gear you buy, make sure it supports a good cause. We need Pride sections because we still have to fight to go to the bathroom in school. Those rainbows in Target might be the only signs of Pride some kids see in their community. Not every town has a Pride Parade, Loudoun doesn’t.

But we can festoon Loudoun in Rainbows. Be #LoudounProud

If you have an independently owned business in Virginia and are a welcoming place to work and do business with, please join Equality Means Business. 

Please email LCPS at lcsb@lcps.org and tell them you support trans and gender non-binary youth, 

Tell them you support 8040. Trans and Gender non-conforming youth are not going to hurt your kids. The reality is they are hurting. They deserve the same privacy as your children. Let go of your fear and practice radical acceptance.

Tell the school board vote for the Pride Proclamation should have been unanimous. 

Charlotte McConnell, Sterling

8 thoughts on “Letter: Charlotte McConnell, Sterling

  • 2021-06-02 at 10:25 am

    Nobody is “proud” of being heterosexual. Or having Type A blood. Or having a detached ear lobe.

    If being one of the letters of the alphabet soup is truly biological, then there should be nothing “proud” about it.

    • 2021-06-02 at 5:11 pm

      You sir, have nothing to be proud of. I am proud to be queer and you will not bring me down.

  • 2021-06-02 at 10:44 am

    “I do not need to tell you about the transphobia taking place in this country because Loudoun Now enables it by reporting in a very biased manner. Sometimes we need to see positive stories of Pride instead of all the controversy and hate.”

    Obviously, McConnell doesn’t read Loudoun Now much. Perhaps one day she’ll write a positive letter about her issue, instead of yelling at the people of Loudoun County about how crappy they are.

    • 2021-06-02 at 5:13 pm

      your reading comprehension must be lacking or you did not read the other 15 LTE’s I have written. I am really not sure what exactly you are talking about. But how about I just refer to you as she from now on? If you ever want to meet in a public space, like a library, where firearms are not allowed, I’d be happy to explain trans and queer rights to you.

      • 2021-06-02 at 6:31 pm

        Please feel free to call me whatever you choose Ms. McConnell. However, it’s pretty phobic of you to assume what my pronouns are — you don’t know me.

        I’ve read all your letters, printed in the very community newspaper you so erroneously deride. You demand everyone see you, all while condemning the people of Loudoun as some sort of giant hate enclave. It does nothing for your cause to make demands while yelling at people.

        Loudoun has welcomed many people, from all walks of life, for much longer than you’ve been on the planet. Bitterness is no way to go through life.

  • 2021-06-02 at 5:31 pm

    False witness! Look in the mirror honey there looking back at you is the problem.

  • 2021-06-04 at 9:29 am

    Radicals on both ends of the spectrum should be ignored. Even the loud, angry ones.

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